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The essential sex etiquette guide for university


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As freshers' week comes to a close and university begins to start in earnest, emergency contraception brand ellaOne has put together a guide to university sex etiquette. 

We all know that university is a time to explore, make mistakes and get to know yourself better. However, one mistake you never want to make is sex.

When you have it, who you have it with and how safe you are should all be thought out, as you never want to regret your actions later.

With that in mind here is ellaOne's guide to university sex etiquette:

1.Be yourself

Be yourself and don’t put too much pressure on a potential relationship. There's nothing worse than getting weighed down with something you aren't even sure about just because you think it's what you're supposed to do. After all, university is all about figuring out who you are and what you enjoy!

2.Know your ground rules and stick to them. 

If you don’t like something in bed don’t do it! Anyone who pressures you isn’t worth it. The same goes for your body – it doesn’t matter what shape or size you are, your body is awesome and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Why give the time of day to someone who tears you down when there's someone out there who will make you feel amazing?

3.Numbers don't matter

Everyone is going to have a different number of sexual partners but it is important to focus on making a connection with someone. Don't judge them based on their past, or let anyone judge you for yours!

Also don’t feel like you need to share your level of experience with a new partner – this is nobody’s business but yours.


How far you go is up to you! You can say no if a situation doesn’t feel right or safe, so make sure you listen to your gut. Don't let anyone talk you out of trusting your instincts or keeping quiet to make your partner happy.

Start off polite if you think you need to, but know when someone isn’t taking no for an answer – you may need to be a bit stronger in your response. Alternatively, if someone says no to you, you need to respect their decision. 

5. Take chances

Don’t just rely on dating apps as the only way to meet people. If you are interested in someone, go about it the old fashion way, strike up a conversation and ask for their number.

This is for both parties. You may not have another opportunity to do so and you could regret it!


Always use protection! No matter how well you know the person or how into the moment you are, you should always remember to use a condom.

Condoms are no longer just a guy's responsibility, so make sure you have some on you in case. They are available at supermarkets, pharmacies and sexual health clinics, so there is no excuse not to use one! 

Additionally, women should seriously contemplate going on the pill, as condoms are only 98% effective at preventing pregnancy, which means there is still a chance they could fail.

Contraception and contraceptive advice is free for all women in the UK and is available in a range of places including GP surgeries and sexual health clinics. There are 15 methods to choose from, and with a little research, you can easily find the right one for you.

If you forget to take your pill prior to having sex there is always emergency contraception, which is available at GP surgeries and sexual health clinic's, as well as walk-in centre's and out of hours services. Emergency Contraception has also very recently become available in some high street shops including Superdrug. 

In addition to the above, you can also get the morning after pill in advance and online. The ellaOne website features a selection of reputable online pharmacies that provide the pill for immediate use. Additionally, they provide an advance supply of emergency contraception if you think you may need it in future and want to take it as soon as possible. 

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