How to keep your relationship going over summer
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So you’ve had the year of your life, met the person of your dreams and now you have to disappear back home, move in with your parents and turn into an angry 15-year-old again for a few months. There is absolutely no definitive way to do this and no sensitive way to say this: it’s going to be tough. If you’re lucky your significant other will be nothing more than a quick train ride away, however it will still take added effort to keep your relationship going after the ease of university turns into summer jobs, old friends and distractions. Here are some questions you should consider to be in with a chance of preserving your relationship over the summer months: Are you both on the same page? Before the crying and hugging commences as you part at the train station it’s worth asking some obvious but potentially awkward questions. Asking these questions will ensure that you are both on the same page about what the relationship means to you and will avoid severe disappointment. How serious is this relationship? Do you trust each other? SPOILER ALERT: If there is a lack of trust it will not last the summer. Chances are the only reason you have made it this far is due to living on top of each other, leaving no room to be sneaky. It’s also important to question each other’s summer plans and what they may entail. Let’s face it, you’re asking for trouble if you’re doing a three month stint as a rep in Zante. However if you are heading back for a summer of office work in your granny’s Post Office you probably seem like more of a safe bet. All that aside it’s important that you both realize the effort involved in a long distance relationship and have the overall plan of turning up at university in September the same happy committed couple that left. Can you adapt to life without them? Let’s be honest, you have never had so much free time as when you’re in university. It’s easy to fall into each others pockets, spending every minute together and adopting a “joined at the hip” attitude, which probably makes the people around you feel a little queasy. Of course once you’re back at home working a summer job, adjusting to life with parents and generally just getting a punch of reality, it can be heavily frustrating. Try not to take that frustration out on them; everyone’s guilty of doing it sometimes, but it was your constant presence and reassurance that made that attitude ok. Now though, when you are far away and you are both upset, the worst thing you can do is reserve all those negative thoughts for them. Vent to your parents instead, it’s what they’re there for – isn’t it?
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