Man who told a Tinder match that rape is only nonconsensual for eight seconds gets banned from the app

A former University of Reading student has been banned from Tinder after he sent a woman a series of misogynistic messages, including one talking about women orgasming during rape.

Charlie Silcox, 28, sent a lengthy and disturbing rant to a woman after he noticed one of her photos on the dating app was of her at a protest with a “men of quality believe in equality” banner.

His messages include the following comments:

“Personally since the Weinstein (sic) thing, I think, we have to talk about women orgasming during rape”

“There are woke men out here... And when the time is right... we’re gonna walk up behind our girlfriends... while they’re doing the washing up put our hands over their mouths, start unconsensually (sic) having sex”

“rape is only unconsensual (sic) for about 8 seconds after that she loves it”

“Angelina Jolie cannot act but Harvey (Weinstein) gave her a career, she obliged”

"BLM (black lives matter) are a joke aswell (sic)" 

Speaking to TNS, a spokesperson for Tinder confirmed that Silcox's account has been removed:

“At Tinder, we have a zero-tolerance policy on harassment and hate speech. The behavior of this user is inexcusable and we have removed him from our platform."

The woman who received the messages shared the screenshots in a Facebook group asking for advice. She later shared them on her personal account but asked to remain anonymous. 

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The post went viral on Twitter, Camilla Whitehill who shared the screenshots wrote, “I don't want any women accidentally meeting up with someone like this, he is clearly dangerous."

TW:rape, racism, misogyny, sexual violence

A pal received this horrendous message on Tinder. It’s been reported to the police.

If this is your idea of being a ‘nice guy,’ you’re completely mistaken. Sadly, this isn’t unrepresentative of the kind of messages women receive online pic.twitter.com/zkswMZP9Ap

— Sarah Wright (@ihiccupalot) 3 December 2017

Speaking to TNS, Charlie Silcox told us that the messages he sent were not threatening, he described the online response as an “inexplicable over reaction”.

“On the girls Facebook post yesterday I unreservedly apologised for my ignorant remarks about rape.” 

"If someone does see these as explicitly threatening I would advise them to start writing they’d do incredibly well with such wild imaginations."

Silcox also sent messages to a friend of the woman he originally matched with, telling her he made no threats and the police would not take any action against him. 

Silcox is reportedly self-employed and was a student at Reading until 2010.

In an official statement The University of Reading said:

“As an institution we condemn the use of sexually violent language and urge the parties involved to contact the police and Tinder.”